If there’s one thing every woman who dates or has dated women knows, it’s that lesbian breakups are not for the faint-hearted. From shared friends to being part of an already tiny community, navigating a breakup with a woman can be exhausting and confusing, and with very little guidance out there to help us through it. Most of the resources out there are catered to or based on heterosexual and heteronormative ideas of what a break-up is or should be like.
But one only has to watch just a snippet of The L Word to know that, for lesbians, frankly there is no clear path for figuring out just about anything smoothly. But thanks to the creators of our favourite Lez Go Travel Show, help is now along the way, and that help could lead you to finding your ultimate soulmate.
Last month, you might have caught our review of the Lez Go Travel show, a brilliant and refreshingly queer take on queer documentaries to help you find your next travel destination. The show premiered on June 15th, and follows couple Stacey Powell and Christin Baker on their travels from New Orleans to Jamaica and beyond.
With Stacey as your on-screen guide, and Christin behind the camera capturing it all, this show is about diving deep into the rich and diverse cultures the couple encounter, as they meet inspiring individuals from the LGBTQ+ community in different parts of the world, celebrating the joy of travel and experience through a previously unseen lens, where travel is celebrated and made inclusive for queer women too.
Now, however, Stacey and Christin have been generous enough to give us more. Inspired by the love they found for each other, The Lez Go Travel Show is launching a Love Course on Finding Your Soulmate.
The Love Course to get you through
The course is designed to help individuals find their soulmate after navigating a breakup. Stacey and Christin have always believed in the power of travel to transform lives and create meaningful connections. With this new course, inspired by Stacey and Christin’s travels around the world, they aim to take their mission further by providing practical and authentic guidance on love and relationships.
“In almost every city we’d meet up with someone who’s part of the sapphic community, and they would either comment on our relationship or the energy between us,” says Christin. “They naturally ask how we met, or in a couple of cases, we actually ended up kind of coaching some people through their Break-Up. And both of those people, I will say now, are very happy with new girlfriends and a much more, hopefully, healthier and happier relationship than they were before.”
From there, they would talk about their journey in finding one another, coming from very different relationship backgrounds, as well as all the specific things they believe they did to call one another into each other’s lives.
“We both believe we manifested each other, 100%. And so it’s actually through the travels of Lez Go that we realised how special our relationship is when it was reflected to us through other people. I thought, gosh, wouldn’t it be great to help people find this amazing love just like we have?”
The couple started their own love story having met through a mutual friend and were friends for a little while before they started dating. In retrospect, there was definitely some low-key flirting going on, Stacey admits.
Before you hit the dating apps
Hitting dating apps is often a first step for many in the bounceback after a heartbreak, where it might be tempting for someone to meet someone quickly and conveniently, and cling to someone who isn’t right for them, but that fills the void, without challenging themselves to do some work. “They’re not spending the time to sit in their break up and really reflect on what happened and why it happened and how they can process it, and then find someone who is more in alignment and who their person is,” says Christin.
Before meeting Stacey, Christin took a long break of being single to reflect on previous relationships, to do the work she knew she needed to do if she was going to strive to have a better relationship in the future. But it was hard work and there was no template to follow. It was this experience that inspired Christin and Stacey to help others through this process.
“When women break up with each other, we tend to break up over a long period of time; there’s back and forth, you’re trying to be in touch, or you’re trying to be friends, and sometimes you have to be friends because the community is so small,” says Christin.”It’s incredibly different than a straight break-up, because you have this support system in a straight world that we don’t always have, and sometimes you have to process it alone because of that.”
The initial break-up course is a 30-day email-delivered course that helps you to heal in order to call in your soulmate, each day with a theme of the day, with positive reinforcements and inspiration.
30 days of guidance from Stacey and Christin
“We chose 30 days because I think 30 days is doable for people and we will be like walking right alongside with you, helping you, giving you support, because that’s what I wish I would have had,” says Stacey. “I wish I would have had something like this to help me get through those first 30 days, because there was a lot of back and forth calling my ex. That’s what I noticed most about my first break-up with a woman, it was these intense emotions, where everything was so intensified.”
From not handling first lesbian breakups well at ages 23 or 44 to finding love with each other, Christin and Stacey bring their own unique experiences to this guidance, whether it’s about coming out later in life or finding love for the first time with a woman in your 30s or 40s. With very few resources for lesbians going through breakups, they wanted to fill this gap with something more personal and unique.
Stacey will also be offering one-on-one coaching as an optional addition to the course. They have also created a journal to help guide those through the process and the course will be available from October 5th, delivered by email. Meanwhile, season two of the Lez Go Travel show will be coming out in autumn for more queer adventures abroad with Stacey and Christin.
“I’m super excited about it because in season two we’ll be going to Croatia, Barcelona, Ibiza and then Salem for Halloween,” says Stacey. “I’m super excited about it. We’re interviewing this cool ass witch who owns a store in Salem.”
You can find more info about the course and how you can find your soul mate below:
Love Course: Finding Your Soul Mate
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Lauren is a writer and editor based in Peckham, covering all things queer culture, books, travel, arts and lifestyle, fashion and creativity. She was previously a features editor at New Statesman Media Group and now works freelance and part-time hoping she may never work 9-5 ever again.
