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Lesbian slang terms, our never-ending queer glossary

Navigating the sea of terms and expressions in the queer and lesbian community can be mind-blowing. There seem to be hundreds of different terms these days for all types of lesbian scenarios, dating expressions, types of gays, and moments. Whether you’re a seasoned queer linguist or just starting your journey, this glossary is your go-to guide for decoding the baby gays’ lingo. But if you spot anything that’s not on the list, let us know and we’ll have it added.

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Chapstick Lesbian

A “chapstick lesbian” is a casual and slangy way to describe a lesbian who leans towards a more laid-back and understated style, often eschewing the stereotypical markers of ultra-femininity. This type of lesbian may prefer a more natural look, opting for comfort over high-maintenance fashion.

Lipstick Lesbian

A “lipstick lesbian” is a way to describe a lesbian whose style embraces a more traditionally feminine and glamorous aesthetic. These girlies slay in the fashion department, often opting for chic and polished looks, and they aren’t afraid to rock a bold lip colour – hence the “lipstick” in the name.


Baby Gay | Baby Dyke

A “baby gay” is a term used to describe someone who is relatively new to the LGBTQ+ community, particularly those who have recently come out or discovered their sexual orientation.

Pillow Princess

A “pillow princess” is a term often used in the lesbian community to describe someone who enjoys receiving pleasure during intimate activities but may not actively reciprocate or participate in giving.


“WLW” stands for “women who love women.” It’s a term that’s inclusive of all romantic and/or sexual relationships between women. So, whether it’s lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, or any other identity where women are loving women, you’ve got it covered with “WLW.”


A “femme” is a term used to describe individuals who embrace a more traditionally feminine gender expression and presentation.

High Femme

A “high femme” refers to individuals who fully embrace an extremely feminine and glamorous gender expression.

Gold Star 

The term “gold star” is used to describe someone who has never had sexual or romantic experiences with someone of the opposite gender. You would have heard it in the original The L Word. However, some find it offensive as it is seen that it might create a hierarchy.

Golden Retriever

The term “golden retriever lesbian” is a playful and affectionate way to describe a type of lesbian within the LGBTQ+ community. It’s a term that conveys warmth, friendliness, and a positive, easygoing attitude. They are willing to do anything for their girlfriend, hence being like a golden retriever dog.

Black Cat

The term “Black Cat” refers to a girlfriend that has tendencies like a black cat. This is a girl that has a more mean girl, femme, sexy, mysterious and unfair style.


A “stem” lesbian is someone who embraces both feminine and masculine qualities in their gender expression. The term is an abbreviation of “stem,” which stands for “stud-femme.” This means that a stem lesbian may have a mix of traditionally masculine and feminine characteristics in their appearance, style, and behaviour.


A “stud” is a term within the black lesbian community. A Black masculine identifying lesbian. It’s sometimes used alongside butch, however, some feel this term is exclusive for the black community.


A “butch” is a term often used in lesbian and queer communities to describe individuals who present themselves in a way that is traditionally associated with masculinity.


“Bisexuality” is a sexual orientation characterized by romantic or sexual attraction to both men and women.


“U-hauling” is a slang term often used in the LGBTQ+ community, particularly among lesbians, to describe the rapid pace at which some couples move in together or become deeply committed to each other early in a relationship. The term is derived from the stereotype that lesbians tend to move in together quickly, similar to the way people rent a U-Haul truck for moving.


“Enby” is derived from the abbreviation NB, which stands for non-binary. Non-binary is an umbrella term for gender identities that don’t exclusively align with the traditional binary concept of male or female. Individuals who identify as non-binary may experience a gender identity that is fluid, outside the conventional categories, or a combination of both. Enby is often used as a casual and affirming shorthand for non-binary, providing a more colloquial and friendly way to refer to someone whose gender identity falls outside the binary spectrum.

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A “Celesbian is a lesbian who is a celebrity.


A “dopplebanger” is a person who is attracted to people that look like themselves.

100 Footer

A “100 Footer” is Someone that is very clearly gay, that you can tell from 100 feet away.

Bed Death

“Bed Death” is a term that’s thrown around in the lesbian world to describe when your sex life dies in a relationship.

Clam Jam

A “Clam Jam” is the women’s version of a cock block. When someone is preventing you from pulling someone, either on purpose or by accident.


A “CisHet” is someone who is cisgender and heterosexual.

Stone Butch

“Stone Butch” is a lesbian who has high masculine identity and also some may prefer not to be touched sexually.

And there we have it, lesbian slang and info on terms that the queer community use often. If we’ve missed anything then let us know by commenting below.

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Last Updated on 24th January 2024 by Nonchalant Magazine

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